Attitude of a well bred woman: education and finances

               What sets a well bred woman apart from an average one?  To answer that question, one must examine both internal and external differences.  Internally, a woman’s character is the foundation vital to her development.  Beyond this, I believe one of the main differences between a well bred woman and an average one is both her educational level and her socioeconomic status.  Consider the following terms and phrases:

Owns one or two department store credit cards
Buys groceries orn credit cards
Drives a beater car that is always in the shop
Has a newer used car purchased on credit
Graduated high school
Graduated college or technical school
College dropout
Reads paperback novels
Reads biographies and nonfiction
Watches drama and classic movies
Watches reality TV
Enrolls in classes and educational endeavors
Makes light of what she learned in school
Lives paycheck to paycheck
Puts money aside to save regularly
Buys plenty of inexpensive things
Buys fewer high quality things
Pays rent
Pays mortgage
Works a regular job
Is a stay at home wife or daughter

               What pictures come to mind?  Probably many of these terms apply to you or someone you know.  Would it surprise you to know that there is not an answer key of sorts, whereby a woman is or is not refined and genteel based on which aspects apply to her?  Also, many of the phrases that seem to denote opposite choices in a matter, such as reading material, are not mutually exclusive and could both apply to any given person.  Being well bred goes beyond externals;  it comes from within;  it can apply at any age and dollar mark.  One does not have to be rich, and there is no dollar amount of net worth at which being well bred automatically starts.

               Then what is the point in analyzing one’s economic and educational choices?  In my opinion, it is the attitude behind them that sets a well bred woman apart from an average one. Along my way in life, I have adopted some general mindsets that I believe are in line with the elegant, poised, peaceful mindset of a well bred woman:

Money and education are each a means, not an end.

Money and education are tools, not security blankets.

Money and education both enable a person to experience pleasure, care for and love others, beautify her environment, nourish the afflicted, and leave the world a better place.

Neither the amount of money nor the amount of education one has should be a source of stress.  If one finds oneself stressed because of either her financial or educational situation, one should take steps to change the situation, such as working more, working less, getting a new job or career, opening savings or insurance accounts, finishing or choosing not to finish her education, studying something she enjoys for the pure joy of it, etc.

Having money and / or education should not create social barriers, thereby isolating people.  Instead, possessing such should enable people to draw together through having greater means to affect and influence each other.

And, most importantly, having a solid moral foundation is vital for using one’s finances and educational achievements to achieve the greatest good in the world.

               In conclusion, a well bred woman thinks about what has led her to make the financial and educational choices she has.  Here are some examples of ways that attitude distinguishes between an average woman of status quo and an excellent woman of fine character:

 Completes the minimum required education because someone made her, and / or
 Attends college out of compulsion or because it is the “thing to do,” and / or
 Acquires education in order to get a job that she thinks will be “easy” or pay well for minimal effort, instead of

 Having a passion for learning or for the future that her education is shaping, and / or
 Applying her knowledge to internal aspects of life in order to create wisdom, and / or
 Seeing education as an opportunity instead of a chore.

 Has a job in order to pay the bills, and / or
 Works at a job because it is easy, peer-recommended, or comfortable, and / or
 Depends on a man financially instead of

 Working to create wealth, stability, comfort, and happiness, and /or
 Choosing a job or career based on dreams, abilities, passions, and noble aspirations and / or
 Doing her part, whether by earning money or fruitfully managing a household, to better the lives of her and her husband or significant other, if applicable

               Readers, what are your thoughts?  What kind of attitudes do you embrace when considering one particular financial endeavor over another, or whether or not to pursue higher education?


6 thoughts on “Attitude of a well bred woman: education and finances

  1. So well said! When I went to graduate school for gender studies, people asked, “what are you going to do with that?” I told them that enriching my knowledge about the most ancient division of human beings would most surely come in useful. And it has, in my career and my personal life. I love your blog!


  2. I m so happy you found your way to my blog! I have been looking for similar blogs to mine forever and I seem to have failed in my attempt… hehe. But then here you are !
    I agree with you that education is a big part of what a well bred woman is, but as far as socioeconomic status, I think that it is something you can achieve by being well bred, rather than something you must have to be considered well bred.
    Great post though and very inspiring blog! I will definitely be coming in here for inspiration often!


    • Thanks for visiting my blog! The links in my sidebar are some of my favorite lifestyle blogs along the same lines as mine.

      I agree that socioeconomic status is something that is achieved by living well bred, though I may not have been very clear in this post. I will write more on this subject later outlining my own strategies for living well and enjoying life by successfully managing finances. 🙂

      So happy you stopped by, and thanks for the kind words!


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